One of the most challenging portions of scripture in the Bible is found in the first three verses of the 13th chapter of I Corinthians. Here we find instruction that tells us that no matter what kind of great things we might do in life, if behind it all we do not love people, we gain absolutely nothing. Paul mentions specifically that even if we move in spiritual gifts, without love there is no benefit. Loving people is not always easy to do and we might not want to admit it, but we ourselves may not always be so lovable. But love is better defined as an action rather than an emotion. Paul then continues to teach on ways that love is expressed and each is an action: being patient, being kind, not being jealous, not bragging or being arrogant and so on. We confuse loving someone with how we “feel” about them instead of how we act towards them. But where feelings come into play is in the way you make others feel. People will always remember how you’ve made them feel. The giver of love shows it while the recipient of love experiences it. And as you develop your relationship with God, it gets easier! People will know you by your love!
1 If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. 3 If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing. 1 Corinthians 13:1-3 (NLT)
35 By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:35 (NKJV)